DRAFT: Jealousy - The Most Destructive Force on Earth

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<p>The recent release of the film <em>Bohemian Rhapsody</em> prompted me to revisit the British band Queen. Many of Queen's songs are prominent in the soundtrack of my life, and, like many such songs, have both good and bad associations, but mostly good ones. While many people &#8220;binge-watch&#8221;, I usually &#8220;binge listen&#8221;. The last thing I binge-watched was <em>I, Claudius</em>, that masterpiece of the BBC that featured, among other things, a younger Patrick Stewart (with a wig), who played the role of Sejanus; the finger-wag he got from Macro (John Rhys-Davies) that signaled Sejanus&#8217;s impending demise was one of the more memorable scenes in a series chock-full of them.</p> <p>&#160;</p> <p>Anyway, I decided to binge-listen to Queen. Digging through my dusty and cob-webbed archives, I was surprised to find that I had all of their studio albums. I also had, among other things, The Chambers Brothers, Moby Grape, and the entire 1967 Monterey Pop Festival. I still have no idea where I picked that stuff up, but as it&#8217;s my habit to not look a gift horse in the mouth, was glad all the same to find them.</p> <p>&#160;</p> <p>Listening to Queen, I was reminded of the fact that they are among the greatest musical acts that ever existed. An extremely rich blend of hard and soft music that puts them in a class all of their own. It was an emotional roller-coaster ride of sorts, and the song &#8220;You&#8217;re My Best Friend&#8221; got me a little misty-eyed, for reasons I will never share with strangers.</p> <p>&#160;</p> <p>Among the songs I listened to for the first time in many years was "Jealousy", from their album <em>Jazz</em>.</p> <p>&#160;</p> <p><a title="https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8rSSmgXEKuY" href="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8rSSmgXEKuY">https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8rSSmgXEKuY</a></p>" target="_blank"><p>&#160;</p> <p><strong>Jealousy</strong> - A resentment towards someone for a perceived advantage or superiority they hold; envy towards another's possessions.</p> <p>&#160;</p> <p>The song got me to thinking about the various ways my jealousies toward others, and the jealousies that others have shown toward me, have had nothing but destructive effects, and often, mutually-destructive ones at that. One of the things I enjoy about getting older is that my jealousies have either waned significantly or have completely disappeared, although it does raise its ugly head from time to time.</p> <p>&#160;</p> <p>For a lack of more sophisticated words, I really don&#8217;t give a rodent&#8217;s rump about &#8220;who gets this&#8221; and &#8220;who got that&#8221;. What to say&#8230;life&#8217;s a bitch, and then you die. Generally speaking, one reaps what one sows. Rather than being angry and bitter about those people who have &#8220;had it better&#8221;, my attitude has shifted more toward, &#8220;Bully for you, motherfucker. I&#8217;m glad it happens to someone.&#8221; I was talking to someone who worked in biochemistry, and suggested to her that if she found a cure for jealousy, at least 90% of the world&#8217;s interpersonal problems would be solved at a stroke.</p> <p>&#160;</p> <p>&#160;</p> <p>&#160;</p>


Minister Peaceful Poet Added Nov 8, 2018 - 2:00am
Article is good, title is misleading - but I do appreciate that you admit that you have an issue with jealousy from time to time.   But I think this article is more about Queen than Jealousy.  
Nobody's Sweetheart Added Nov 8, 2018 - 2:19am
MPP, long time, no see! Welcome back, dude! Thanks for the constructive criticism! I know I took a Full Metal Jacket approach, but what can I say...format should take a back seat to sincerity, lol.
Flying Junior Added Nov 8, 2018 - 3:23am
They don't call jealousy the green monster for nothing.
I have been jealous over a girl.  It hurts like a motherfucker.  And there is no one to blame but your own sorry self.  One becomes the object of derision and pity.
Unless, as did I, one becomes a true romantic in the great Spanish tradition.

Stone-Eater Added Nov 8, 2018 - 7:57am
No shit. Jealousy fucks up so much in Africa too. This infantile behavior should actually be overcome once people get to a certain age....
...and Freddie was a hell of a composer. I saw a documentary about him once and he must have been a real good guy too.
Steel Breeze Added Nov 8, 2018 - 10:38am
gotta agree .......about the topic and Queen....
opher goodwin Added Nov 8, 2018 - 12:04pm
Good to see British stuff featuring strongly in your likes list! Thought you had a down on us limeys.
Stone-Eater Added Nov 8, 2018 - 12:48pm
Freddie was an Iranian LOL
FacePalm Added Nov 9, 2018 - 12:15am
Michael B-
"Thou shalt not covet."
Pretty much sums up jealousy, don't it?
That said, easy to say - tough to do, most of the time, but with the desire to overcome the temptation, it can be done.
Nobody's Sweetheart Added Nov 9, 2018 - 1:39am
@ FJ - I thought that the Green Monster was absinthe, lol.
Nobody's Sweetheart Added Nov 9, 2018 - 1:39am
@ Stone - Yes, we do agree on a great many things...once a while, huh? LOL. Jealousy certainly doesn't discriminate.
Yes, musically speaking, the death of Freddie was a great loss.
Nobody's Sweetheart Added Nov 9, 2018 - 1:40am
@ Steel Breeze - How could someone possibly disagree, lol.
Nobody's Sweetheart Added Nov 9, 2018 - 1:40am
@ Opher - Actually, I have it in for anyone who is constantly attacking and/or putting down my country and it's people. Constructive criticism is one thing, but some of things you and your Limey brethren put out are quite different.
Nobody's Sweetheart Added Nov 9, 2018 - 1:40am
@ Stone again - I think Freddie was Indian.
Nobody's Sweetheart Added Nov 9, 2018 - 1:40am
@ FacePalm - Any conversations that start with the word "Thou" are usually automatic turnoffs and/or signals for me to go into attack mode, but I'm going to slack you...this time, lol.
Nobody's Sweetheart Added Nov 9, 2018 - 1:41am
Speaking of attack mode, that's next. Enough of the Mr. Nice Guy shit.
FacePalm Added Nov 9, 2018 - 1:58am
Michael B-
If you want to have some cheap fun some day, like at work or an eatery or something, add the phrase "according to the prophesy" after maybe every 3rd or 4th sentence.  If you can keep a straight face, the expressions on theirs should be priceless.
Thanks for the slack; had i known that the T word was also a trigger, i could have simply modernized the language.  The point is that coveting and jealousy, while not perfect synonyms, are pretty close.
Nobody's Sweetheart Added Nov 9, 2018 - 2:09am
@ FacePalm - Thanks for the suggestion, I may add it to my already extensive repertoire of various methods of fucking with my colleagues. That's it! I'll suddenly become...a religious fanatic!
Personally, I make a distinction between coveting something and being jealous. For some reason, I'm reminded of a joke:
Q: What's the difference between a bitch and a whore?
A: A whore fucks everyone. A bitch fucks everyone but you.
FacePalm Added Nov 9, 2018 - 3:34am
First, LOL.  You do have a great sense of humor.
Second, yes, i believe there is a distinction between jealousy and covetousness, but it's relatively minor; if one were to try to explain why one was jealous without using the word, f'instance, "covet" (and it's variants) could be stretched to fit, methinks.
Third, i'd heard the joke before, but LOL'd anyhow, because i'd forgotten it, and it's good.
i have a joke folder, and that gem is going in there.
And personally, i don't think i could pretend to religious fanaticism for an hour without cracking myself up and blowing the act.  i'd have a very hard time just with the "according to the prophesy" thing, especially after watching the faces of those i was yanking the chains of.
Speaking of which, you know why businessmen wear neckties?  Prettier than a chain...
Hey, there's an idea!  If possible, enlist a sympatico compadre to surreptitiously video the expressions.  Could be fun at parties...might even be a saleable item.
Oh, and one more joke occurred to me:
"So i told my girlfriend she'd put her eyebrow liner too high up on her forehead.  She looked surprised."
Stone-Eater Added Nov 9, 2018 - 5:36am
Freddie was Iranian. Ayatollah Mercurini.
Nobody's Sweetheart Added Nov 9, 2018 - 8:24am
The Ayatollah of Rock and Rolla!
opher goodwin Added Nov 9, 2018 - 11:32am
Really Michael? Such as?
Mircea Negres Added Nov 9, 2018 - 11:43am
Good one, Michael. I agree with you, but would like to second the female vagina and male desperation to gain entry as yet another destructive force :-) 
Stone-Eater Added Nov 9, 2018 - 12:40pm
Well......there's so many holes around in our environment. A bit more fantasy can avoid huge payments later LOL
FacePalm Added Nov 9, 2018 - 5:52pm
Yeah that "male desperation to gain entry" is what females know - and play - to get what they want, from my observation.  i learned how to avoid that game years ago.
Smart man.  "Fantasy will set you free" said Steppenwolf, more years ago than i care to remember.  OTOH, the reality is that women are often very much like hurricanes: when they come into your life, they're wet, they're wild, they're fun - but when they leave, they take all your crap - or destroy it.
Nobody's Sweetheart Added Nov 10, 2018 - 12:15am
@ Stone - OK, Let's settle this once and for all. Freddie was British, lol.
Nobody's Sweetheart Added Nov 10, 2018 - 12:16am
@ Opher - Once again, you demonstrate your plutonium-like density. To answer you own question, simply review your very own posts.
Nobody's Sweetheart Added Nov 10, 2018 - 12:16am
@ Mircea - LOL! Believe me when I say that did not escape my notice, but I thought I'd mix it up a little bit. Many forms of music usually covers that topic comprehensively, lol.
The Burghal Hidage Added Nov 11, 2018 - 11:24am
And of course I must ask a chronic rule violator....What about you Michael B? Would you say TBH is insufficient in comment upon the work of others?
The Burghal Hidage Added Nov 11, 2018 - 11:27am
You saw my latest post, which has twice now been reduced to draft status, for reason's unclear. The reposting was marked by the standard warning of rules violation from the Madame of the House.
Seems that perhaps there may have been some other motive for the removal. If we are going to start exercising selective censorship on here I'll no longer waste my time. Ya'll know where to find me
Nobody's Sweetheart Added Nov 11, 2018 - 11:58am
@ TBH - WTF? That sounds atypical of AC's normal behavior. You are a good participant by any measurement. Maybe it's a glitch, as I've had weird things like that happen before. Either that, or AC has been possessed by Satan.
Stone-Eater Added Nov 11, 2018 - 1:13pm
(WTF means Burghal Hidage anyway ???)
Nice to see you again after so many years LOL
Bill Added Nov 28, 2018 - 4:16pm
Welcome to the Monkey House!
The author has zeroed in on one of humanities most alarming traits, and the one most likely to be our demise.  There is a reason that The Prisoner's Dilemma almost always has the same outcome no matter how they vary the setup.  Bottom line is, most people will gladly accept some punishment in order to assure that their perceived peer or rival is in some way harmed or thwarted, almost every time.
The Burghal Hidage Added Nov 28, 2018 - 4:27pm
therein lies the tool of despots for time immemorial: the politics of envy
Liberal1 Added Nov 28, 2018 - 5:10pm
Thanks to you I'll probably contract "grey lung" from all of the dust I just inhaled or will catch tetanus from stabbing myself with a phonograph needle while digging out my own cherished, previously buried and forgotten about "favorites" and my turn-table.  
It was worth it though because I, as we "speak", have the pleasure of listening to the pops, hiss and static of Molly Hatchet's "Flirtin' with Disaster"album, with the Stone's "Let It Bleed" and AC/DC's "Dirty Deeds" cued up on the spindle.  Be jealous.  Be very, very jealous.
wsucram15 Added Nov 28, 2018 - 5:49pm
SEF...Mercury was from Tanzania an Indian ocean island,  raised in Mumbai and eventually Panchgani for school, all in India. He has some sort of Asian background as well that he was apparently proud of but not very well known.
MB- Nice comments on jealousy, its something I try to avoid although that is difficult. I figure being happy with what you have is better than being unhappy with what you dont.
But then again, I buy stuff I want (expensive stuff ) and end up returning it almost every time.  Its nice and I can buy it, but do I really need it? If the answer is no..it goes back. Except shoes.
 PS..Queen was something live, especially when they first came out in the costumes with makeup.  I have not seen the movie but will, they were very interesting.
Morgoth Added Nov 28, 2018 - 10:16pm
Freddie Mercury was a Parsi.  No, I didn’t know what that was so I looked it up: 
This is a Parsi.
BTW I thought I was getting an article on jealousy and then imagine my surprise...Queen!!!!!!  Then I got an article on jealousy.
I want to see Bohemian Rhapsody but haven’t gotten a chance yet.